The Myth of Healing Through Unchecked Catharsis

In many women’s breath work circles, emotional release is celebrated as the gateway to healing. We scream, we wail, we beat our fists into pillows. We’re told to “let it all out.” And for a moment, it feels liberating energy moves, tension releases, emotions rise and fall like waves. But what happens next?

The truth is, raw emotional release without containment doesn’t always heal. In fact, it can retraumatise. When deep pain is surfaced without proper integration, it risks leaving us more dysregulated than before. Instead of completing a healing cycle, we can get stuck in an endless loop of reliving our wounds, mistaking intensity for transformation.

When I Realised Something Was Off

I still remember sitting in a room full of women, the air thick with emotion. A facilitator had invited us to “go all in”- to let the pain move through us in whatever way it needed. The space erupted into a storm of sobbing, screaming, bodies shaking. It felt powerful.

But as I looked around, I saw something that unsettled me. Some women looked frozen, overwhelmed by the energy in the room. Others had collapsed inward, their systems shutting down. And afterwards, as we stepped back into the world, I noticed a hollowness in some of the women’s eyes like something had been unearthed but not repaired.

That moment was a turning point for me. I realised that intensity alone is not the marker of transformation. If anything, it can leave people more fractured if they don’t have the tools to integrate what arises.

Trauma Is Not Just Energy - It’s Patterned Survival

Trauma isn’t simply an emotional charge waiting to be discharged. It lives in the body as a patterned survival response. Without skilful facilitation and a safe(r) container, cathartic release can reinforce those patterns rather than resolve them. The nervous system, overwhelmed by the intensity, may react by shutting down, dissociating, or bracing for more.

This is why a sustainable approach to healing isn’t about dramatic breakdowns it’s about deep integration. True transformation happens when we learn to regulate our nervous system, anchor into presence, and process emotions in a way that restores safety, not just intensity.

The Role of a Skilful Facilitator

A well-held space isn’t about encouraging the biggest, loudest release. It’s about guiding the body towards resolution, not just activation.

Skilful facilitation includes:

• Supporting the nervous system in finding stability before and after emotional release

• Encouraging slower processing rather than overwhelming discharge

• Helping participants integrate their experiences so they don’t leave more raw than they arrived

Teaching Facilitators to Do It Differently

This is exactly why, in the Fembodiment™️ Method Facilitator Training, I’m teaching women how to hold space ethically and responsibly. We are not here to chase the biggest catharsis or force an emotional breakthrough. We are here to cultivate authentic healing that is embodied, sustainable, and deeply integrated.

If you’re ready to hold space in a way that transforms rather than overwhelms, I invite you to join me in the training this September.

Jenni Mears - Holistic Sexologist, Fembodiment™️ Teacher & Clinical Hypnotherapist

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