There was a time when I thought power meant being loud, visible, and constantly expressing everything I felt. I believed that to be strong, I had to be in motion, doing, saying and proving. But over time, my body taught me a different kind of power. A quieter, deeper strength that didn’t come from pushing outward, but from holding myself with presence, grace, and trust.
To be a contained woman is not to be closed off or rigid. It is not about silencing yourself or making yourself small. Rather, it is about cultivating the ability to hold your own energy, emotions, and wisdom in a way that nourishes you instead of depleting you. It is about knowing when to express and when to hold, when to move and when to be still.
A contained woman is not swept away by external noise or internal chaos. She is deeply rooted in her own body, her own truth, her own knowing. She does not need to spill over to be seen, nor does she need to shrink to feel safe. She carries herself with a quiet confidence that comes from being fully at home within herself.
Containment: More Than Just Control.
Containment can be misunderstood. There was a time when I thought it meant restriction, holding myself back, and keeping things in check. But true containment is not about control, it is about trust. Trusting that you don’t have to give everything away to be worthy. Trusting that your presence, your energy, and your words are powerful when they come from a place of deep alignment.
Containment is like being a vessel, a sacred container that holds all of you, without needing to overflow or empty out for others. It allows you to feel your emotions fully without being consumed by them. It gives you the ability to choose when and how to express yourself, rather than reacting impulsively or feeling obligated to share before you're ready.
The Dance Between Boundaries and Openness.
One of the greatest gifts of containment is learning to honour your own boundaries, not as walls that keep others out, but as a framework that protects your energy and allows you to show up in your fullest expression.
A contained woman knows her own edges. She does not overextend herself to meet the expectations of others. She does not give her time, energy, or emotions away unless it feels right in her body. She listens to her own rhythms, honouring when she needs rest when she needs stillness, and when she is ready to step forward.
And yet, she is not closed. She is deeply open, open to life, to connection, to intimacy, but only in ways that feel safe and nourishing. Her boundaries create a space where she can be both soft and strong, both wild and grounded.
The Inner Peace of the Contained Woman.
When you begin to embody containment, You will notice something profound: You will stop rushing. You will stop feeling the need to fill the silence. You will stop needing to be everything for everyone. Instead, you became more present, more intentional, and more at ease in your own skin.
A contained woman moves through life with a sense of steadiness. She does not need to chase or grasp, she magnetises. She does not need to shout to be heard, her presence speaks for itself. She is deeply connected to her body’s wisdom, trusting that everything she needs is already within her.
Becoming a Contained Woman.
This is not about perfection, it’s about practice. About learning to hold yourself with love and compassion, even in the moments when you feel uncertain. It’s about recognising that your worth is not measured by how much you give, how much you do, or how much space you take up. It is about returning to yourself, over and over again, and knowing that you are enough.
Containment is a homecoming, And in that homecoming, we find the deepest kind of power, the power of being fully, unapologetically, and beautifully contained.
If you are curious about explore this further, Nicci is facilitating the upcoming Embodying Your Feminine Pulse.
Nicci Jaggard - Fembodiment™ Facilitator
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